Homesteadmaker™
Homesteadmaker™ Have you heard of it? Well you have now! And this is my story of what it’s all about.
I have spent my life living from a place of being what and who was needed in the moment for others and myself. I bet you can relate to that too. But before you think I’m going down a negative rabbit hole, spoiler alert, It’s quite the opposite:)
I’ll mention some examples to give you context:
When I was in school and college, I was the student.
When I was getting married, I was becoming the wife.
When I was in the hospital having babies, I was becoming a mom(by the multiples!;)
When I was assigned a patient in the ER, I was their nurse.
When I balance the checkbooks/organize paperwork/planning budgets etc, I am the secretary and finance specialist.
When I plan classes or events on the farm, I am the business owner.
When I have conversations with my grown kids, I am their friend.
Those are just a few roles and hats I have worn and still wear. I’m sure you have some of the same hats and and even other hats that I don’t have, nor will I ever. It’s called life! But I never thought of those roles as being as important as they really are.
So here’s the thing….Why do we discredit our roles? Why do we compare to others? Why do we think there’s no value to the roles we have in our lives? Why do we lessen the value of our foundational roles and give more value to what seems more important to our own culture or community?
Based on my experience with myself and others here’s what I think the reasons are ….1. Because we don’t think of our roles as being important or making an impact, 2. We don’t think we are good enough, and 3. We think money/status/stuff/etc equals value.
When we don't think of ourselves as valuable human beings it leads to thinking we aren’t good enough. (And let me tell ya, I am the queen of “not good enough”!) So we then put value on money or anything physical outside of ourselves or on our person. We think that if we earned money(status, stuff, title, dress size etc) then we earned our value. And when we earn those things THEN we will have earned being considered valuable. But it’s not true. Our value isn’t what we earn.
I believe what’s considered the “most basic of roles” we have within our society are the most important and valuable for ourselves, our community, and the future generations.
I put myself through years of self sabotage.
I wanted to be the “perfect mom” and I compared myself to other moms who appeared to have everything put together. Always thinking I failed my kids.
I wanted to live in the country but I felt I wasn’t as good as the city wives. Always thinking the country life wasn’t as dignified as city life.
I wanted to learn how to homestead but it wasn’t socially acceptable. Always thinking I personally was socially unacceptable.
I wanted to have my own business and make an impact but I never thought I was as good as the next business owner. Always thinking I had to be just like someone else or I didn’t have a real business.
Every one of those and all the rest that aren’t listed,,,Are a big fat lie. It wasn’t and still isn’t true. And the crazy thing about all my thoughts of self sabatage…I did it to myself!
It’s like a plague that effects all people but women seem to be the most vulnerable of self sabotage. Once I realized I wasn’t the only one to think and feel this way, I started to choose different thoughts.
I didn’t want to just choose different for myself. I wanted to be the example for other women to choose different too. I wanted to turn homemaking and homesteading on its socioeconomic undervalued head.
So…. I created Homesteadmaker™.
Homesteadmaker™ is the blending of Homemaking and Homesteading. It’s Homesteading made Beautiful.
All women are Homesteadmakers™. No matter what phase of life, where we live, or if we do/don’t work outside of the home, we still have our hat to wear of being role models and teachers for the next generation.
Accepting our value and responsibility of being a Homesteadmaker™ is what strengthens ourselves, our family, our communities, and all of our futures.
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